It feels good to be believed in
Accepting low paying gigs. Saying yes to mediocre opportunities. Acquiescing to the comfortable vortex of the middle market. Compromising our fee just to get our foot in the door.
Discounting our value because we’re afraid of turning down new work. Violating the boundaries of our generosity just to make an impression. Allowing ourselves to be flattered into free labor.
These are just some of habits that trap us in the wrong mindset about our worth.
And the danger is, these behaviors create an inertia of the spirit, which can keep us treading water in an unsatisfied state of our own making for far too long.
Unless, of course, an external force finally yanks us out.
The key word here is external. Because that’s the only way we rebuild the self. By transacting with other selves. By confronting the blank canvas of another human being, allowing our true value to be witnessed, and trusting that this interactional mirror will tell us that we are, in fact, the fairest of them all, or at least, much fairer than we once thought.
It’s an invigorating moment. When somebody we only just met gives us a good once over and says, wow, you are fucking amazing, and you feel like the kind of person equal to the responsibilities of this new challenge, so we want you to join us.
This is the tremendous gift of being seen. And it is only received when the validity of our experience is mirrored back to us by another self who recognizes our value.
It feels good to be believed in.
LET ME ASK YA THIS…
Are you prepared to believe the truth about yourself no matter how beautiful it is?
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