Anything that enables blissful sense of expansive oneness with others, ideas and experiences, is a worthwhile use of our time.
Those little everyday moments add up. We build a bank with them. Particularly during times of distress, disappointment and depression, when our ability to make deposits into that emotional account can make all the difference in the world.
Lewis wrote about this phenomenon in his book about the surprise of joy:
This really was a period of ecstasy that consisted chiefly of moments when you were too happy to speak, when the gods and heroes rioted through your head until you felt that it might break you with mere richness.
Are you pulling your triggers for joy? Are you committing daily acts that evoke aliveness? Are you learning to find satisfaction in small compensations? And are you orienting yourself toward that which delights you?
Hope so. Because every life needs moments of exultation. Any small gesture or tiny embellishment that has a memorable impact on us, it’s a sign that we’re still alive.
Years ago, during an especially painful breakup, a friend of mine called me one day and said that she was waiting outside of my apartment, prepared to kidnap me for the afternoon.
Reluctantly, I threw on some clothes and met her outside. Kristi proceeded to take me out for ice cream and give me a tour of the new gay sex shop in our neighborhood. We spent over two hours in that place, laughing and learning about all the new trends and technologies in the world of gay erotica.
The drag queen owner even modeled a few pieces of sexy lingerie for us and started an impromptu dance party.
Before we knew it, the three of us were busy with gasps of delight, lost in a world of our own personal delight and wonder. Not exactly the type of weekend adventure I had in mind, but it ended up being one of the most unexpectedly joyous days of the whole year.
To the point that I forgot all about my broken heart, let go and delighted in the universe once again.
Lesson learned, each of us deserves to have moments so golden that they take our breath away. Each of deserves to be surrounded in environments that convey a sense of wholeness and evoke a quality of aliveness. And each of deserves a specifically nurturing habitat for the needs of our unique organism.
Cameron’s manual for tapping into creativity during retirement explores this same idea. She claims that a luxury is anything that gives people pleasure purely for its own sake, not because it performs any kind of useful function.
It doesn’t have to be expensive, only authentic.
Luxury is an agent of joy, irrespective of cost.
It’s a simple moment in which get in touch with the small things that matter to us and make meaning in accordance with our values.
LET ME ASK YA THIS…
How are you orienting yourself toward that which delights you?
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