Seducing yourself into thinking that your joy is not here but there

Braced for the worst inoculates us from danger

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It’s tempting to lay wide awake, waiting for the other shoe to fall, expecting our abundance to prove itself temporary and a lie.

Because from an evolutionary perspective, there’s this anxious part of ourselves that believes if we’re not worrying, we’re being irresponsible.

If we’re not feeling the pinch of panic at least some of the time, we’re growing complacent and setting ourselves up for risk and putting ourselves in harm’s way.

It’s a perfectly human reaction. Carrying ourselves as though braced for the worst inoculates us from danger.

The problem is, the moment something triggers our anxiety, we are no longer living in joy. It’s like a dormant virus that wakes up when stress weakens the immune system. And it makes us feel like crap.

This is too good to be true. I must have gotten away with something. I’m only here on a technicality. Looks like I pulled another fast one on the world. Better enjoy it while it lasts.

That’s no way to live. Persistent concern about negative recurrence and uncertainty about the future might make us feel noble and heroic, but it also sabotages our joy.

It’s like guy who scores a date with the girl that he thinks is way too beautiful for him. Trapped in his trance of unworthiness, he spends the entire evening wondering what the hell she sees in him and forgets to enjoy the view.

What a waste.

The goal is to convince ourselves that wherever we have arrived is permissible, earned and exactly where we need to be right now. The goal is to be ready to revel in the beauty of what is unfolding, not just be a good sport and roll over for whatever disaster the universe has in store for us next.

And one day, should it all up and disappear like a fart in the wind, we give thanks for the time we had with it and trust that our divine supply will replenish when the time is right.

Have you seduced yourself into thinking that your joy is not here but there, somewhere in the future?

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Scott Ginsberg
That Guy with the Nametag
Author. Speaker. Strategist. Inventor. Filmmaker. Publisher. Songwriter.

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