What do you see when you see people?

Somebody brave enough to live with your terror

Image for post
Image for post

I once heard a psychotherapist offer a brilliant piece of advice for connecting with people who are suffering from depression, anxiety or any other battle inside the mind.

Instead of hitting people over the head with your brilliant insight, do everything in your power to let them know you’re not afraid of them. That’s fierce intimacy. Letting them know that their suffering is not a contagious disease you’re going to catch. Being present to them in a way that shows your trust in their confidence to make it through.

It’s a highly progressive approach to navigating interpersonal space. One that most of us aren’t using to practicing.

Because instead of our typical codependent, competitive reaction, which is to help and fix and fight and solve, we actually make room for the pain of others instead of running from it.

We give others the gift of space to express themselves completely. We let them cry without turning away from their tears. And we offer those around us full freedom to express their anger without walking away or rejecting them.

That’s the person you want in you corner when everything goes to hell. Somebody brave enough to live with your terror.

Somebody you can’t use as your one phone call in jail, because they’re sitting in the cell right next to you.

What do you see when you see people?

* * * *

Scott Ginsberg
That Guy with the Nametag
Author. Speaker. Strategist. Inventor. Filmmaker. Publisher. Songwriter.

Image for post
Image for post

It’s the world’s first, best and only product development and innovation gameshow!

Tune in and subscribe for a little execution in public.

Join our community of innovators, artists and entrepreneurs.

Author. Speaker. Songwriter. Filmmaker. Inventor. Founder of getprolific.io. Pioneer of Personal Creativity Management (PCM). I also wear a nametag 24/7.

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store