Who is the person you no longer ask to help you?

People who have compassion for your context

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Seeking help, in whatever necessary form, is the most important part of the entrepreneurial journey.

If we don’t connect our goals with people who can help make them happen, pushing that boulder up the hill is going to take a very, very long time.

But equally as dangerous as not asking for helping from the right people, is accepting help from the wrong ones. Here’s a summary of my experience making that very mistake.

I know you have a lot of experience in this area. And I understand your perspective would certainly give my work a greater chance of succeeding. But there’s a fear in me. Because every time I ask for your support, the moment you jump in, you hijack the project and treat me like your little helper and make me feel like a disempowered intern who isn’t adult enough to take ownership over anything. And then, when I start acting all huffy and defensive and short and resentful, you get angry with me for not implementing your brilliant feedback, which makes me shut down even more. Is it any surprise that I stopped coming to you for help years ago?

That’s the lesson we must learn. That our bodies and minds don’t respond to people’s words, they respond to our history with the person using those words.

As the old saying goes, once we’ve seen a ghost, we’re always afraid of the dark.

And so, if you’re not sure whom to ask for help, listen to your body. Surround yourself with individuals who aren’t trying to silence your unringable bell.

People who have compassion for your context and allowing you the space to take extreme ownership of your world.

Who is the person you no longer ask to help you?

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Scott Ginsberg
That Guy with the Nametag
Author. Speaker. Strategist. Inventor. Filmmaker. Publisher. Songwriter.

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